My social network feeds are becoming more and more clogged with "helpful" articles for the over-30s club. Everything from "It's Okay to Have No Children" to "The Duggars Got it Right!"--and from "Too Fat is Too Cute" and "You're a French-fry Away from a Heart Attack, Fatty!" Then there's the always-present "Looking for Love over 30" articles. Oh, yes. Those articles explaining everything I should be looking for in a mate because, if left to my own devices, I would inevitably bring someone to Christmas dinner who fell off the back of a van.
I'm in my 30s now, so the reaction I'm supposed to have is mass panic apparently, as well as a complete feeling of inadequacy. I have no children. PANIC. I'm not a size 2 (or even an 8). PANIC! I have no husband or life partner. PANIC!!! I've reached an age that seems to be looming over the cliff of "it's now or never!"
...Except that I don't feel any of the panic, and I've spent a lot of time over-analyzing that fact because that must mean there's something wrong with me, right?
I have two full time jobs--the day job and the writing job. While my day job does not define me, I think writing always has. And maybe that's why I'm comfortable in my own skin (at least for the moment).
I like to daydream about intricate plots involving lost souls, unrequited love, and wine. And again, maybe that's why I'm comfortable. I can write about a dozen different lives and live pieces of all of them while doing it.
Is the danger then that I'm not truly living any kind of life but one in fantasy? It's a puzzle, and I'm not sure that's a direct yes or no question anyway. But if you're a full-time writer, part of living your life is skating along the razor's edge of reality and fantasy.
We all need an escape, but we all also need something that makes us feel secure. For some, it's money or a powerful career. For others, it's family. And for the rest of us, it's something that drives us forward, no matter what life throws in our path.
As for me, I've got stories to tell, people to meet, and more books to hit the shelves soon.
Happy Holidays, and no matter where you are in your life, I hope you find joy. And if that joy doesn't include what every know-it-all article seems to think you should have in the current stage of your life, maybe that makes it extra special. XOXO
New book coming: THE HEART OF STONEM MANOR (more details soon!)
Let's connect on:
Have a favorite author? Check out my page on Amazon!